In the world of BDSM, a Dominant’s time, effort, and energy are invaluable commodities. They form the foundation of the unique and complex relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. A professional Dominant, invests an immense amount of personal resources into shaping and nurturing these relationships. Her years of experience, her wealth of knowledge, and her dedication to the lifestyle make her guidance priceless.
Every moment spent with a submissive is a moment taken away from other work, other commitments, and personal time. The professional Dominant devotes her time not only during sessions but also in preparing for them. This involves understanding the submissive’s desires, fears, boundaries, and aspirations, tailoring sessions accordingly, and providing emotional support and guidance before, during, and after these interactions.
However, it’s important to remember that while this relationship is personal and often profoundly transformative, it is also a professional exchange. This means that a Dominant’s time, energy, expertise, and emotional labor deserve compensation. Like any other professional providing a service, a Dominant should be fairly compensated for her contributions.
To potential clients and submissives, remember that every message sent, every phone call made, every consultation, and every session requires a significant commitment from your Dominant. These exchanges take up her time and energy and deserve respect and appropriate payment. By acknowledging and compensifying her efforts, you not only ensure that she can continue providing high-quality service but also express your appreciation and respect for her dedication and skills.
In short, if you value the relationship, the guidance, and the experience that a professional Dominant offers, it’s crucial to respect her time by offering proper compensation. It’s a matter of respecting her professional status, her expertise, and the effort she puts into each interaction. It also contributes to maintaining a healthy and beneficial Dominant/submissive relationship.
As you can read on my website’s FAQ you will find more explanations about costs and efforts I make personally as a pro Domme.
First of all, I’m a professional dominatrix with a lot of experience. I’m a dominatrix, therapist and lifestyle coach that has been involved in the BDSM scene for 18 years. I am also a gender transformation specialist and cross-dress and transition coach. All sessions have a fixed rate contribution as shown on my website’s sessions page. Your contribution helps to sustain the costs of maintaining my business:
• Endless hours of marketing work, so you can find me online, maintaining and updating my websites, creating content, editing videos and taking pictures for social media and many other basic tasks.
•The costs of photography. You might have seen my immense collection of freely available shoots. We work with high quality equipment in which we invested thousands of euros.
•Providing a discrete and spacious workspace with playroom, transformation room, cross-dress walk-in closet and office. The studio is fully equipped with expensive gear required for sessions. The rent for this luxurious space is high, also don’t forget about electricity, water, insurance, security bills etc.
•For gender transformations I have hundreds of pieces of quality clothing ranging XS to 4XL, make-up, shoes (EU39-46), wigs in many varieties, colors, sizes and styles. Lashes, nailcare and more accessories. Totaling over 15.000 Euro and I keep investing more.
•My own designer wardrobes. Think about the designer shoes that can be worshipped. And other skincare, manicure, pedicure, etc. I need to look my best.
•Preparing for a session and taking the time for my clients.
•Creating personalized coaching plans and getting to know them better so I can properly guide their BDSM experience, MtF makeover, couples coaching, crossdressing or transition coaching.
•Cleaning expenses such as, a disinfection machine, products and of course the time to clean. Wigs and clothing will be washed after every session. Regular steam cleaning of furniture. And items such as shoes make-up and brushes get disinfected. And the list goes on. As health is an important aspect, I use a UV-C hepa-13 filtration system for clean air.
•My years spent studying psychology, human anatomy, body language, coupled with my work as a therapist and coach, form a rich skill set that enhances your session and exploration within BDSM. This year, I’m also pursuing an additional degree, which comes with its own substantial financial investment.
•I’m a professional Dominatrix, I do this for a living. My time is valuable. You get paid for your work too, right?
Running high-quality services comes with many costs and huge overheads. In other words, you must contribute to the costs of running a high-quality service, or else it will not be available. In my line of work, I invest a lot of time and money to provide you with the best possible experience, so why should I not be compensated for my efforts?
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